What is birth debriefing?
Birth debriefing gives you an opportunity to talk openly and honestly about your experience of birth, with someone who is trained to support you in telling your story, so that your story is heard and acknowledged.
Birth debriefing can help you make sense of not only the events that happened during and surrounding your birth but also the array of deep emotions and feelings that went with it and still continue.
It is not uncommon for women and men to experience strong ongoing emotions but have trouble recognising exactly what those are, leading to difficulties in moving forward. Guilt, shame, failure, anxiety, anger can all be experienced in the months and years following a birth, particularly when the experience goes unprocessed with unanswered questions. Even more so when surrounding family and friends don’t seem to understand your perspective of your birth.
Debriefing with a trauma-informed, experienced counsellor can give you the support you need to fill in gaps, and integrate the experience of your birth into your life without these troubling emotions continuing.
Who is it for?
Birth debriefing is for anyone who feels they may be affected by the experience of birth, especially Dads.
Dads enter the birth space baring witness to their partner experiencing intense physical and emotional distress, which often leads to them feeling somewhat helpless in protecting them. This, compounded with fear of the unknown, lack of communication from medical staff, and potential medical emergencies can leave dads feeling traumatised.
The want to stay strong to support their partner and new baby can add to feelings of distress, isolation, anxiety, confusion or failure.
Birth debriefing can help Dads make sense of their perspective of the birth, clarify events and feelings, provide answers to questions, and provide tools for moving forward.
Is it too late?
Most women and men don’t seek support for their birth experience straight away. Some months after, some years after their birth. And that’s ok.
Birth can affect mums and dads in ways that may not surface early in parenting, or it may be difficult to even acknowledge its impact until much later on. Logistics, survival mode, numbness, shock, avoidance… there are many reasons for this.
But there is no right or wrong time to access support for your birth experience. It is never too late to speak with someone about your birth.
How does it work?
During your session I will work with you to tell your story, piecing together your experience, and the thoughts and emotions you have surrounding each part of it.
We will work to gently unravel the meanings your birth holds for you, the pieces that cause difficulties for you, the questions you need answers for, and how you may begin to heal moving forward.
The session itself is 2 hours, with the option of moving to ongoing counselling if that is something you feel you want.
Book your birth debriefing session
Birth debriefing sessions are available in Success on Mondays, Tuesdays and Wednesdays, and in Bedfordale on Thursdays and Fridays. Zoom (video) sessions are also available throughout the week for those who are unable to attend sessions in-person.
Birth debriefing sessions are done individually as each person’s experience of birth is subjective and personal. Your birth experience is likely to be very different to your partner’s, in terms of how you each perceive the events that took place, the emotions it evoked both then and now, and how it continues to affect your present. Your partner is absolutely welcome to come along to support you though if he is having difficulties processing the birth himself, it may be best for him to book his own session with me.
To book your Birth Debriefing session simply fill in the contact form below and I will reply to your message with my available sessions: